Q&A: Some Men Are Pickup Naturals,
Women Don't Hate Intellectuals

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This week's Q&A focuses on men who are natural pickup artists, just being yourself with women, why women are attracted to jocks, and how to read body language like a pro. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.

Why is it that some men are just "naturals" at attracting women?

While I do know some men who are no doubt "naturals" when it comes to attracting women, I also know a lot of guys who are considered by most to be naturals but who actually made themselves so by cultivating the qualities inside themselves that are attractive to women.

Yes, you read that right. Naturals can be created. And you can do it.

We all have to learn how to socialize, deal with women and make the most of our lives.

So start by doing all you can to make yourself great in your own eyes...

That might mean working out and eating right, learning to play an instrument or learning a second language, taking a trip to a foreign country, or working with a charity to do some good in the world.

When you do these things, women will notice. And as you take the steps to make your life great and improve yourself as a person, you'll start to notice that your life -- and especially your dating life -- is exponentially better and more fulfilling.

You always hear women say "just be yourself" when asked about what a guy should do to attract them. Well, what if "yourself" isn't that attractive to women?

The phrase "be yourself" could easily be called the "universal" dating advice for men.

But what does this really mean?

What a woman wants is for you to be your real self… the person you are around your family and your buddies.

Here's an example:

When you were a kid, playing a game with friends and your mom would yell, "Come home for dinner," of course you would say, "I'm almost done with the game mom. I'll be there when I'm finished!"

But then when you grow up and an attractive woman says, "Go to the bar and get me a drink," you say, "Right away dear!"